Saturn is currently transiting Libra, bringing to center stage the issue of boundaries and balance, within relationships.
Some seem to be born with an understanding of what boundaries are, and utilize them with ease, throughout their lives.
Others, myself included, have had to work quite diligently to understand the meaning of boundaries and to utilize them in a manner that is non-projective.
Years past, I attended a Spiritual School of Healing for a time.
It was the philosophy of the founders of this school, that to become an effective conduit for healing for others, one must first heal, thyself.
When I entered this school, one of the issues that was constantly stressed to me during our self-work sessions, was BOUNDARIES.
Quite honestly, back then, I didn’t have any.
The word, meant nothing to me whatsoever, no matter how many times it was defined to me.
Yet others could see, even if I could not, that I was in desperate need of boundaries, and I am thankful for their daily enforcement of the necessity of developing boundaries for myself.
Many wise souls planted seeds with me back then, and while I did not have those seeds sprout until after my attendance period at this school, they did eventually come fully to flower, and I am so very thankful for those that cared enough about me, to badger me ceaselessly, on boundaries.
Setting boundaries really is about you, not, about any other.
I do not perceive boundaries as “walls or shields”, as I believe is quite a common perception in the collective.
If you truly have strong boundaries, and maintain them, there is never a need to deflect or prevent an energy of any nature from entering your space, nor is there a need to concern yourself with how another is utilizing their personal energy.
Boundaries are, a clean and concise definition, of your personal space.
They allow you to set within your energy patterns, what comes in, what goes out, and how you wish to utilize or bypass any energy incoming, regardless of if you should label it as “negative or positive, high or low”.
It simply does not matter, for you yourself, through boundaries, determine the qualities of any energy within your space.
Keep your space tidy, and do not trespass the personal space of an other, and you shall master boundaries amazingly fast!
Following is an article I wrote a while ago, and I feel it is in context to developing and maintaining boundaries, and is an issue that tends to be overlooked, when doing depth work in the boundaries arena, for oneself.
If you are interested in developing better boundaries in your life, this article may be helpful to you, as there are many subjects that are not always easily identified as being directly connected to the area of boundaries, and I feel this is one of them.
If you have a lot of challenging aspects in your chart concerning relationships with others, or, if you are loaded up on Pisces, 12th house, or Neptune aspects, you too, should find this article of benefit. Service-oriented Virgo, this also could serve you.
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