Saturn (boundaries) is now transiting Libra, the sign of relationship, balance and justice, and boundaries in relationship have become the hot topic of the season.
Boundaries and relationship go hand-in-hand and you just can’t have one without the other.
As Saturn transiting Libra is a collective influence, unless you plan to become a Hermit, this is an area everyone has to come to terms with these next 2+ years.
As I have stated previously in other articles I do not see boundaries as ever being about the other person.
Boundaries are always personal and solely about you.
When lacking healthy boundaries we are often inclined to acting out the victim archetype and playing the ‘blame game’ for we feel that everything that occurs in their life is the result of an others actions.
There is no happiness, joy, nor self-fulfillment within the state of victim-hood and it is not a pleasant place to be .
Victim-hood is the residence of stress, anxiety and anger.
Victim-hood harbors guilt, shame and self-disappointment within it’s walls.
Yet if you find yourself residing within victim-hood, you can make the choice to step out of those walls, and it really is much easier than you may believe.
I am a firm believer that, “No One or Thing can cause us harm nor control us in any manner unless we allow it to be so”.
This, is where boundaries come in.
When assisting clients in the area of boundary development I often offer a visualization that makes it quite easy to immediately start building boundaries in your life and enforcing them with others, even if you have previously struggled with understanding or utilizing boundaries and are currently feeling dis-empowered your relationships.
Before you proceed with this visualization exercise, there are a few points you must first set within yourself.
1. Boundaries are born and nurtured out of Self-Respect.
You have likely heard it said many times before that, “To receive the respect of others you must first respect your self.”
This is a premise of truth for those that have developed strong and healthy boundaries.
Love your self enough to care about your own happiness and welfare and claim your equality in the Whole of Creation by choosing to step into Boundaries as a symbol of your Self-Respect.
Gift your Self, with the same Love and Respect, that you gift unto Others.
2. Boundaries are not about taking action against others. Boundaries are about defining what actions you will and will not tolerate and/or expect being preformed unto you.
While we can not dictate the actions of others, we can and should, dictate our own actions in a manner that is serving of our Highest welfare.
This is the premise of existing in a state of action and not reaction.
When you embody healthy boundaries a need never arises to be reactionary, for even if another challenges you in some manner, they cannot effect you for they are not within your personal energy space.
Maintaining your personal energy space and standing firmly within it ensures that you are afforded all of the time and space required to respond to everything and anything that approaches your personal borders.
You, not any other, determines what you allow in and what you send out.
3. When setting boundaries it is important to build upon a foundation that you hold firm upon in every relationship.
It is not uncommon to see that those that have the most difficulty setting boundaries are often struggling due to complicating the whole matter in their approach.
Boundaries are not easy to develop and set if you attempt to instill them in a case-by-case basis.
To simplify: If you are currently feeling overwhelmed within any of your relationships, and often feel severely trespassed, it is simply not going to be efficient to try to work each and every situation out individually and with separate sets of rules for each relationship.
By attempting to do so you are unlikely to achieve much success and will likely find yourself confused about what it was that you were even attempting to do.
Instead, try clearing your thoughts of any personal nature concerning these existing unbalanced relationships where you feel like a victim.
Just dump all of the thoughts of, “but he does this and should do that” and the “but the kids do this and should do that” and don’t overlook the “but my boss did this and should have done that”.
Show it the door and let it go for at least long enough to do the visual.
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Visualization for Setting Boundaries
You are on a boat, just you, in absolute solitude.
You are peaceful and content in your solitude.
Your boat is adrift upon the waters of a lake and not a single person is within the waters surrounding your boat.
Surrounding the lake in the distance there is land.
You can see people standing on that land.
Yet the waters are broad and expansive so you cannot hear these people nor interact with them in anyway.
You are happy and relaxed and you really like your current state of being.
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As you are floating happily in your boat, allow yourself to take note of how this space feels, for this is the vibration that you wish to set within yourself as your personal space.
This is your personal comfort zone.
This is YOU within the energy of Self-Love and Respect.
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From within this space of happy well-being focus your attention toward the people standing on the distant.
These people are not literal people within your life.
These people are a metaphor and symbolic of experiences you have had that have left you feeling victimized and unappreciated.
One at a time, these people that are symbolic of your experiences, are going to enter the water and swim towards you and your boat.
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Envision your body, as your full containment and expression of Self-Love and Respect, for your body is your intimate personal energy space.
The boat in which you sit is your extended personal energy space and is your surrounding energy field that protects and contains it’s precious contents; You.
You have full ownership of yourself and the boat in which you sit.
The water that divides you from the others on the land is a shared energy space.
This shared space is owned and shared by all equally, therefore, no one has any more or less right to avail themselves freely to it.
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You are now in your personal energy center within your boat and you notice a person from on the land has entered the water and is swimming towards your boat.
This person is not anyone literal in your life.
This person is a symbol of a behavior or situation (an energy) that you have experienced in your life.
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Now recall and focus on a situation or a behavior that you have previously experienced with an other that was not desirable to you.
An event that left you feeling bad in some manner.
As the swimmer approaches your boat, and you once again feel discomfort as you did previously when in contact with this person that is symbolic of a behavior/situation/energy, affirm that you no longer wish to have this experience in your life.
Simply state: “NO, this is NOT an Energy(situation/behavior) that I deem to be for my Higher Good. I shall no longer accept this energy into my personal space nor be accepting of the projection of this energy upon me.”
Now visualize the person that is the representative of this energy you have just renounced for yourself as having reached the water around your boat.
Yet note that because they are treading water they are unable to grab on to your boat or to reach you in any manner.
Take a moment to set your boat (extended personal space) as the no-cross zone for the vibration of the energy you have just renounced.
From this moment forward, this renounced energy, shall never be able to enter your boat unless you grant permission.
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The swimmer that is symbolic of the renounced energy is now treading water but not touching your boat nor you.
The person is in the shared energy space of the water so it is their choice to remain there as long as they like yet this is of no concern to you for they cannot effect you in any manner.
As long as you do not reach out to the person and invite them into your boat they shall not be able to enter your space and after a period shall tire of paddling around your boat and will head back to the land.
Now the energy that this person symbolized is far removed from you and unless you intentionally focus upon the land it’s presence is not even noticeable to you.
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You have now successfully redefined your boundaries energetically and it was that easy to do so!
This visualization can be done repeatedly for every energy that you wish to set a new boundary for.
The symbolism used in this visualization with practice shall become less and less necessary as a tool.
Fairly quickly you will adapt what I offer here and be your own personal energy-working guru. 🙂
After you have reset your boundaries for everything you no longer want within your space you can flip it up!
Utilize the visualization in reverse with the people symbolic of behaviors/situations representing what you DO want in your life.
When utilizing this visualization as an ‘open door’ for what you do wish to have in your life remember to invite the beneficial person/energy into your boat and then set your intention as: “YES, I Desire and AM Worthy of this Energy within my Life. I AM accepting of All Gifts of this Energy and I AM Thankful”.
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You see, this approach is NOT one of denying or rejecting literal, real people but one of denying certain energies that literal people may possess.
When you reset your energy you can view it if you like as a raising of the the bar above energies that you deem undesirable.
It is then the choice of any person that carries that energy to adjust their energy to be compatible to yours or to simply move on and stay outside of your boundary space.
They may or may not be conscious of what is happening and why yet it does not truly matter.
If your energies are not compatible the other will be repelled in some manner and likely feel as if they just don’t like being around you for a reason they cannot identify or they may feel what registers like a nervousness within themselves when near your personal space and that is the end of it.
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A reminder via my personal viewpoint on Karma/Dharma: Via Free-Will you are granted the right to choose to set your energy and boundaries in any manner that is just right for you. It is not your right to attempt to set the energy of boundaries of any other without their requesting your assistance. There are karmic ramifications for tampering with the energy space of another. This should never be a concern to you though if you effectively reset and define your own boundaries while remaining in respect of the personal boundaries of others.
Blessings~Kachina Houska
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Kachina Houska is a practicing Spiritual Medium, Energy Healer and Astrologer and the author of Into The Mystic, a space offering insight and tools for those seeking to live in well-being via the practice of conscious awareness and through integration of their full-expression of Being.
Consultations are available for those that desire the assistance.
Kachina can be contacted directly at: in2themystics@gmail.com
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This article is featured in Look After Saturn and Saturn Will Look After You as part of the 2010 International Astrology Day Blogathon. The purpose of this web-based event is to create a permanent library of articles about how to deal with the stresses of the Cardinal T-Square of Pluto, Saturn and Uranus. The main page for the Blogathon collections is at The 2010 International Astrology Day Blog-A-Thon.
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